Since the implementation of the family planning policy since the early 1970s, China’s one-child over 100 million people. So in China, most families have only one child. In college, students need to live in the school dormitory. As most of their only child, how to get along with a roommate ? Maybe for you, it’s just one small problem. However, did not deal with small problems can cause huge problems. For example, in a recent Fudan University, a graduate student poisoned the same bedroom with his roommate. This event has attracted wide attention. So now people roommate relationship is very concerned about the issue.

110110138   Hanqianwen Tang    tanghanqianwen@qq.com

Question 1: How to get along with roommates daily?
When you are a person of life, you can do anything you want at any time. But when you live with someone, you need to take care of other people’s habits. For example, when you listen to music, you can bring your headphones. Of course, if your roommate is willing to work with you to enjoy the music, you can share your favorite music with him. Or love your roommate very clean, you can invite him to join you clean your room. Normally, when you make a behavioral act if you think will make your roommate feel uncomfortable. If you really do not know if your roommate’s behavior will cause you dislike, you can go ask your roommate. If your behavior really make him feel uncomfortable, believe me, he’ll tell you. You can also chat with your roommate often and know what he was thinking. Sometimes your roommate invited to dinner with you, is a good choice. As a result, you will probably become friends.

Question 2: If there is little dispute should be how to deal with a roommate?

Dr. Zhang Gangbing said: “Communication is like blood vessels to help blood circulation if the general miscommunication, like blood clogging..” So when problems arise with roommates, you can take the initiative to communicate with him. If it is lifestyle issues, you can try to find a balanced approach to make mutually satisfactory. If the problem is the concept that you can respect each other under the premise put forward their views. You will be able to find the most suitable answer. If you do not communicate with each other but patience. Long continue, will lead to more serious problems.

This photo is me and my roommates went out to play.

In fact, when two people live together, you always easier to find than others of his shortcomings. But also because he saw the most real, so you can easily become a true friend. In four years, you accompany each other. You and your roommate had to share happiness, sadness, excitement, depression and so on. In fact, in your life, in addition to your family, lovers, perhaps no longer the same as a portrait of your roommate. Within four years, together with you from morning till night. So I think your roommate is worth your cherish. Believe me, as long as you treat each other sincerely. When the roommate success with his feelings of joy together. When your roommate difficulties, you help him. Through live a long life, he will become your most precious friend.
Key Sources:1. Book: “General Psychology”, “Social Psychology”, “how to get along with people.” ；2. Life: life experience ；4. Newspaper,Case: “Fudan University graduate student suspected to have been poisoned roommate.”